Time to declutter your life

'Declutter your life' pinned on a noticeboard

Just after Christmas - it’s now the perfect time to look at ways how you can improve your focus by de-cluttering your life.

Go around your house and ask yourself the following questions whilst you are holding each item.

  • How often do I use this?

  • Do I really need it?

  • Does it enhance my life?

  • Does it cause me stress as it is part of my clutter?

These questions should put you on the right track.  Now consider our five tips below:-

  1. A great test is to put everything that fits into this category into a bin bag. Anything you need over the course of the next month take it out of the bag, at the end of the month throw the bin bag away.

  2. Accept that you will not buy anything else at all until you have carried out all these exercises. Moving forward before you buy anything always ask yourself, am I buying this for later, for show, or to really use now?

  3. Hang your clothes in the wardrobe all facing the same direction. If you wear anything face it in the opposite direction. At the end of the month address all the clothes you have not worn, get a bin bag and carry out step one again.

  4. Moving forward consider choosing experiences over material items. Millennials are growing up in a society where the largest retail store doesn’t actually own any items (Amazon), the biggest transportation service doesn’t own any vehicles (Uber), and the most popular hotel chain doesn’t own any hotels (AirBnB). When you consider this perhaps owning things
    is a thing of the past.

  5. Don’t spend too much time telling the world what you are doing, you will lose many of the upsides of experientialism. Psychologists discovered that there are two types of motivation – intrinsic, when you do something for yourself and the enjoyment of the experience, and extrinsic, when you do something to impress others or for some reward at the end. If your motivation for doing something is intrinsic it is more likely to make you happy. With anything that you do, it is vital that you do it first of all for yourself, and for the pure enjoyment of the experience itself. So put down your phone, stop filming and do whatever it is you are doing as if no one else is watching.

For more helpful tips to get out with the old and in with the new, how about you listen to our podcast series Making The Change. For more tips and advice, head to our TikTok channel.

Nik & Eva Speakman

We have studied and worked together since 1992. Between us we have studied human behaviour and psychology for seven decades. We both share an uncontainable passion to offer hope and to help people lead happier and less inhibited lives.

After many remarkable breakthroughs we created our own behavioural change therapy, ‘Schema Conditioning.’® Subsequent work with trauma victims and their related symptoms, led to the creation of two further trauma-based therapies.

‘Schema Conditioning Psychotherapy.’®

‘Visual Schema Displacement Therapy (VSDT)’®

‘Visual Schema Detachment & Restructuring (VSDR)’®

Qualifications from the creation of our therapies, resulted in training psychology professors, doctors and masters students at Universities in Amsterdam and Utrecht. In 2015, this training produced the two sets of scientific studies conducted into the workings of our therapy; the first two study papers highlighting the remarkable efficacy, was published in the Journal of Behaviour Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry in June 2019. A further third study was then published in the European Journal of Psychotraumatology in April 2021, with a fourth clinical study with hospital patients is currently underway and will be completed by the end of 2022.

In addition to members of the public, we work with, and have treated many high-profile clients and ‘A’ list clients around the world, having had prodigious successes. We are resident therapists on ITV’s multi award-winning ‘This Morning’ and have been for over a decade, we have also had own television shows, one of which, ‘The Speakmans’, also aired on ITV and several countries worldwide. Over the last two decades we have appeared on numerous other television shows as experts, such as the multi award-winning Saturday Night Takeaway.

Our mission is to illuminate that there is ALWAYS HOPE and that overcoming trauma and improving quality of life is entirely possible. Many people have either never been given hope, or worse had hope taken away from them, our aim is to correct that by sharing our message in any way we possibly can, including live workshops, theatre tours, books, podcasts, radio, television, social media and YouTube.

At the heart of all we do, is our relentless mission to offer HOPE to as many people as we possibly can.

https://nikandeva.com
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